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Good Chinese Wife

A Love Affair with China Gone Wrong

Published: July 2014
SKU: 9781402293344

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A stunning memoir of an intercultural marriage gone wrong

When Susan, a shy Midwesterner in love with Chinese culture, started graduate school in Hong Kong, she quickly fell for Cai, the Chinese man of her dreams. As they exchanged vows, Susan thought she'd stumbled into an exotic fairy tale, until she realized Cai—and his culture—where not what she thought.

In her riveting memoir, Susan recounts her struggle to be the perfect traditional "Chinese" wife to her increasingly controlling and abusive husband. With keen insight and heart-wrenching candor, she confronts the hopes and hazards of intercultural marriage, including dismissing her own values and needs to save her relationship and protect her newborn son, Jake. But when Cai threatens to take Jake back to China for good, Susan must find the courage to stand up for herself, her son, and her future.

Moving between rural China and the bustling cities of Hong Kong and San Francisco, Good Chinese Wife is an eye-opening look at marriage and family in contemporary China and America and an inspiring testament to the resilience of a mother's love—across any border.

Product Details

  • Paperback
  • Size: 5.50 in x 8.25 in
  • Pages: 352
"An American freelance journalist's painful account of how a hasty marriage to a Chinese man turned her life upside down...it is the author's courage to face her mistakes that makes the book worthwhile." — Kirkus Reviews
"This book gives the reader an unflinching look at how someone can be drawn and really paralyzed by the fear of leaving an abuser. We get a first row seat to see how the author stayed for so long. I think that she really captured her helplessness in a clear cut way. This memoir was often hard to read at times because of the subject matter but I really think that it would be a good pick for those who don't mind hard subjects who really want to understand more about why it is so difficult for people to get out of abusive relationships!" — A Bookish Affair
"For those who are looking to better understand the nuances of modern day Chinese life and delve a little deeper into the many subtleties of Chinese culture, The Good Chinese Wife will not disappoint. " — Asian Cha
"Told in a very frank and honest way, this book is a road map for all things that can go wrong when two people who are wayyyyy too different in every way get married." — Bookshipper
"This was a beautifully written book which told the story of a young girls life from being a post graduate student studying in Hong Kong to being a mother who leaves her marriage because her Chinese husband isn't being supportive, which is why I would give it 5 stars & recommend it to other people." — Catherine Hunt
"A harrowing story of abuse and terror. Susan Blumberg shares her story with women and shows that domestic violence, sadly, pervades every culture. A must read." — Cayocosta72
"This eye-opening account of intercultural marriage is a testament to the resilience of the human spirit and a mother's love." — Glancer Magazine
"Susan's story was fascinating! And while many of us may not have the same experience of navigating multi-cultural relationships, I'm sure most of us can relate to Susan's struggles with trying to make a relationship work and the feelings of hope versus reality." — Leah's Thoughts
"Good Chinese Wife is a moving and impressing memoir about a woman who is under the thumb of her abusive husband...I also liked the different backdrops of the book that the author described very vividly, especially Hong Kong. Overall, I was very impressed by Susan's story and I truly recommend this book to everyone interested in Asia. " — Marjolein Reads
"This book is a good reminder to be aware at all times of who you are and what you expect out of life and to make sure that the person you choose to marry is on the same wavelength that you are. Hopefully, this story will help the next women before she ends up in a place she doesn't really want to be in." — Mary's Cup of Tea
"I found this book to be heartbreaking at times. Susan evolves into a much stronger person and the ending is a happy one. This was a great memoir and a real page turner for me." — Patty's Paperbacks
"Blumberg-Kason's writing takes the form of a thriller and readers will find themselves crossing their fingers as she makes her escape. Despite the tension and dramatic qualities, however, the story never feels false or embellished." — Sunday Post - Hong Kong
"Absorbing, calm and wise, Good Chinese Wife was a memoir I devoured in just a few hours. I felt Susan's all-encompassing love for her family — and often wanted to simultaneously hug and shake her. Though readers may question her decisions (sometimes I did, too), Susan bravely shares her story in the hope, I think, of inspiring others to stand up for themselves and their families. It's a thought-provoking memoir, and one I recommend." — Write Meg
"Good Chinese Wife is a story that will remain with you for a long, long time. The kind of tale you find yourself thinking about long after you've finished it, because you feel that this person telling you her story was right there beside you, confiding in you, and you feel awed by this confidence and the level of honesty bared to you. " — Zee Monodee
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